Tickling Your Child: The Dos and Don'ts for a Magic Bond

As a parent, tickling can be a fun and playful way to bond with your child. It can evoke laughter and joy, making it a memorable experience for both of you. However, it's crucial to approach tickling thoughtfully. In this article, we explore the pros and cons, emphasizing the need for sensitivity and respect for your child's feelings.

How to Approach Tickling with Respect

Before engaging in tickling, it's essential to ask your child if they like it. Not many children enjoy tickling, so there's a high chance they might not want to play this game. If they do, it's important to ask them how they want to be tickled. This approach ensures that tickling is a mutual and enjoyable experience.

My own experience with tickling has been positive. With my youngest child, who calls it the 'tickle monster,' I have found that gentle tickling makes them giggle and laugh. When my youngest is involved, they enjoy our tickle time enormously, making it a cherished moment for our family. However, it's crucial to approach tickling in a way that doesn't hurt and that ultimately fosters a positive and loving relationship.

Why Not Tickle Your Child?

While tickling can be enjoyable, it's important to consider why it might not be suitable for every child. Many children, especially younger ones, may not like aggressive tickling. Gentle hugs, soft pats, and simply chatting with them can be much more comforting and enjoyable. Some children might be okay with a bit of roughhousing, but it's important to stop when they say stop. This teaches them about boundaries and respect.

Parents who might accidentally tickle a child due to overenthusiasm should be aware that tickling can be a very uncomfortable and helpless feeling for a child. For example, a mom jokingly said, 'In the way that doesn’t hurt them, that makes them giggle, my youngest is a tickle professional, enjoys our tickle time enormously.' On the other hand, another parent shared, 'Don’t tickle a child! They hate it. Most kids don’t like aggressive tickling.' It’s important for parents to respect their child’s feelings and boundaries.

Conclusion: The Importance of Gentle Play

Engaging in gentle play and respectful interactions with your child is crucial for their development. While tickling can certainly be part of this, it should always be done with care and respect for your child.

In my family, we call it the 'tickler' or 'tickle monster.' The joy and laughter that it brings are like an explosion of emotions running through me. Although they are older now, the concept of the tickle monster still brings a lot of joy. It's a playful and loving bond that strengthens our relationship.

For parents out there, whether you're tickling or not, make sure to prioritize your child's feelings and bond with them in ways that are safe and enjoyable.

Remember: gentle play, mutual respect, and open communication are key to fostering a strong and loving parent-child relationship.