The Pros and Cons of Celebrating a Birth Week Instead of a Birthday
The age-old tradition of celebrating a child's birthday has long been a touchstone for excitement and happiness. However, is it a good idea to give a child a 'birth week' instead? This concept involves an entire week of daily presents, cake, and big activities, including trips to the amusement park, zoo, and more.
Pros and Cons from a Parent’s Perspective
From an honest and practical standpoint, some parents might argue that this extended celebration could lead to a child feeling they can have whatever they want, all the time. This could result in them becoming brattier or more spoiled. Managing such a prolonged celebration might be challenging, especially for younger children, as it would be difficult to end the festivities without causing upset or a tantrum.
On the other hand, some parents have found the birth week concept to be an enriching experience for their children. One parent shared their experience of celebrating a birth week for their 6 and 8-year-old kids, singing 'Happy Birthday' every day, giving little gifts, and having special events. This week fosters excitement, sharing, and leadership among siblings. It is particularly beneficial for younger siblings who often have to follow the choices of their older brothers or sisters.
My Personal Experience and Perspectives
I must admit, as I reflect on this question, I am reminded of the 'Festivis' celebration from Seinfeld, which seems to embody a similar concept. I have personally been celebrating a birth week for my 6 and 8-year-old kids for their entire lives. They wake up every day with party vibes, receive daily gifts, and have special activities that they choose. This week of celebration is not about indulgence every single day, but rather about providing them with a sense of excitement and specialness.
Historical Context
Date back to my own childhood, and celebrating a 'birth week' was a scaled-down version of what I do for my daughter. On the actual birthday, the 'birthday person' gets to enjoy their favorite meal, either at home or a restaurant, and a special dessert. The party with friends might take place anytime during the week. In some years, we have had elaborate parties at home or elsewhere, involving the entire class, softball team, or Sunday school friends. Other years, it was a special outing with a select few friends or a family party. During the week, the birthday child gets to make choices, such as menus, TV or movie selections, other family activities, board game choices, or even the spot in the car or on the sofa for after-dinner activities. This was not about getting a new cake or presents every night, but about experiencing the joy of celebration for a prolonged period.
Conclusion and Advice
I have no problem with acknowledging and celebrating a child's birthday. However, let's not complicate things too much. One day of a reasonable amount of presents and a cake is sufficient. Celebrating with friends for a day, with some games, is also a great idea. There is no need to take it to an extreme, such as flying a dozen kids to Hawaii or Paris for a day or providing 7 days worth of cake. Strike a balance by embracing the joy of celebration while keeping it manageable and meaningful.