The Joy and Stress of Large Family Gatherings

Do you find large family dinners on holidays enjoyable or too stressful? Some, like myself, can handle such gatherings but prefer simpler, more intimate settings. On the other hand, others relish these occasions, finding joy in bringing everyone together. This article explores the enjoyment and stress associated with family gatherings and the varying perspectives one might have.

Personal Experiences

I was born into a family that values large family dinners, and it's a tradition I've upheld within my own family. These gatherings are not stressful to me because I love preparing in advance. Cooking and planning several days before the event takes away the anxiety. Family gatherings are a source of joy and comfort for me.

However, in my teens and early adulthood, I found these get-togethers quite boring. My focus was on my own life, spending time with friends, and doing my own stuff. As I matured, my perspective changed. I became more sensitive to others' feelings and found pleasure in making them happy. Consequently, what once felt like a burden has turned into a cherished tradition.

Perception and Comfort

For some, large family gatherings are stressful due to feeling out of place. Discomfort often arises from several reasons, including a lack of familiarity in the situation. Unlike being with friends, where one has a comfort level and a sense of being themselves, feeling at ease with oneself can make the surroundings feel less important. With practice and a willingness to find comfort, even large family gatherings can become enjoyable.

For me, most of the large family gatherings are held at my home, which means more work. However, my family shares the cooking, which makes it more accepting. When it’s my family, it’s a wonderful time, and I have wonderful people to share these moments with.

Choice and Perspective

Whether you enjoy large family dinners or find them stressful is ultimately a choice. It can be both enjoyable and stressful based on your personal perspective. Some may desire these gatherings, seeing them as an opportunity to celebrate and bond. Others may prefer the peace and quiet of just being with a partner or two, free from the chaos and stress.

If you’re like me, you may prefer a quiet, peaceful setting with just your partner. About holidays, I sometimes feel they lack meaning and are centered on material possessions and comparisons. If such is the case, you might prefer to stay home or take a break altogether. Peace and quiet are more important to me than indulging in sometimes unnecessary drama and superficial celebrations.

Conclusion

What matters most is your willingness to find joy in the moments. Whether you choose to embrace the joy of large family gatherings or seek tranquility in a more solitary setting, it’s essential to prioritize what brings you happiness.